Caroline's Story: My Journey With The Better Brain Company

Challenges are part of life. 

The older you get, the more bumps come along in the road. Some are small, while others are huge and can change your life. 

Caroline Brown | Partner, Strategy & Ops

Ten years ago, my dad died after a traumatic two-year fight with brain cancer.  

I don’t want to go into the details other than to say that I am so lucky to come from a close and loving family, and we were devastated to watch Dad slowly disappear.  

The world I knew ended when he died. 

Grief is a long and complicated process, and looking back, I realise that losing Dad planted a deep fear in me: the fear of time running out. 

It made me question everything in my life. My relationships, friendships, and work. 

I turned 30 a couple of months after Dad died, and hitting that milestone age sent me spiralling. I was the only single girl in my group of friends. The others were settling down, getting married and having children. 

Their careers were going from strength to strength. They were climbing the ladder and had impressive titles and pay cheques to match. 

I’d never really known what I wanted from my work life, and fell into my first job.  

I wanted to ‘get on’ in my career, so I moved around a couple of times, trying different things, constantly striving yet never feeling successful or appreciated. 

Over the next couple of years, I dealt with a series of upsetting professional experiences and felt trapped by my life. They made me worry endlessly about everything – what people thought of me, how I looked, what I said, how I behaved. It was exhausting. 

But for so long, I told myself that that’s just how life is. Being an adult is hard. 

Life is one challenge after the next. You climb on the hamster wheel of working life day after day after day. Just pull your socks up and get on with it. It’s the same for everyone else. 

Work more. 

Earn more.  

Get the house. 

Buy the car.  

Find the love of your life. 

Settle down and raise a couple of kids. 

I was killing myself, trying so hard, but success always seemed out of reach. I didn’t have what it took, time continued to slip away, and I lived in a constant state of quiet panic. 

I think what kept me stuck feeling like this for so long is that it wasn’t ALL bad.

I met a wonderful man, and we had a lot of fun together.  I travelled, gained some new qualifications and set up my own business while dealing with everything else. 

That added to all my confusion and overthinking.  

I was lucky. What did I have to be so fed up with when so many people were going through truly terrible times? 

Eventually, I came across my now good friend, Abi Rogers, on LinkedIn. She wrote posts about her life experiences. Her grief at losing her own dad when she was a teenager, endless people pleasing, overthinking, anxiety, and so much more. 

I knew she understood me because I saw myself in her words. 

She talked about how she’d overcome so much with the help of solution-focused therapy and clinical hypnosis, to live her life free of doubt and worry. 

She explained that life doesn’t have to be a constant struggle and that you can break away from all the pressures that society puts on you. You can find the courage to decide what YOU want and go after it without constant fear holding you back. 

Yeah, right. 

Literally everyone selling stuff online talks about how they can help you with the same things, and it’s true, some of them do.  

I’ve worked with a couple of coaches before, and they’ve really helped me.  For as long as we’ve worked together, but when you’re on your own again, you slip back to how things were previously. 

Why would working with Abi be any different?  

It was unlike anything I’ve ever done before.

Abi is a psychotherapist. Her techniques are rooted in science, and the changes she helped me make are permanent, happening deep in my subconscious mind.  

Through a combination of therapy, coaching and clinical hypnotherapy, we’ve created new neural pathways in my brain, and so much of the stuff I worried about before doesn’t matter anymore. My brain doesn’t even consider it. 

And it didn’t take years of analysing everything that’s ever happened in my life. It wasn’t painful or traumatic. It was enjoyable.  

My troubles gradually melted away, and I didn’t feel weighed down anymore. 

Happy holidays... but having to get back on the plane to a job I hated. A real turning point, which made me decide to start my own business!

Things have only got better with time.  I stopped being an active client of Abi’s three years ago, but mentally, I’m even stronger now than I was on day one after Abi. Life isn’t without its ups and downs, but I handle them with ease now. 

I don’t stay awake all night worrying about the tiny details of everything. 

I don’t take setbacks personally and let them destroy my confidence. 

I’m not always expecting the worst to happen. 

I’m more spontaneous and try new things often. 

I don’t panic in high-pressure situations and let my emotions take over. 

I speak my mind calmly and without worrying about how my words will be received. 

I’m a stronger support to my friends and loved ones, and their problems don’t overwhelm me like they did in the past. 

I don’t comfort eat to deal with my emotions anymore. 

I’ve created healthy habits and boundaries that don’t crumble at the first sign of pressure. 

My strong mind has enabled me to create a strong and healthy body. 

I communicate more effectively with everyone in my life. 

Being free from anxiety, constant people-pleasing, overthinking and comparing myself to others has allowed me to work out what I truly want from MY life and make it a reality. 

I am filled with a quiet sense of self-confidence, and I know that I can handle anything that comes my way. 

Time sure is flying by, but it doesn’t scare me anymore. I’m squeezing every single drop out of every day and will do so until I physically can’t anymore. 

Without a doubt, working with Abi was the best decision I’ve made in my life. She’s helped me become the person I always knew I was. 

So, imagine my delight when she asked me to join forces with her in the Better Brain Company!  I haven’t retrained as a therapist – I work behind the scenes, keeping everything organised. 

The UK is in the midst of a mental health crisis.  Millions of people are struggling, and while it’s doing its best, the NHS is unable to cope. Its methods and techniques are slow, sometimes outdated, and often don’t deliver lasting change.  In my experience, Abi’s do. 

Our mission at The Better Brain Company is to help as many people as humanly possible overcome their mental struggles by offering safe, rapid and effective therapy and personal development so they can operate as their best selves and live fulfilling lives in an ever-demanding world. 

Imagine how things would look if we could all let go of our trauma, doubts and worries.  

Imagine what we could achieve in life and work to make the world a better place for everyone. 

If you’re struggling or know someone who is, take a look at our website:

www.betterbraincompany.com or send me a message. 

We work with individuals and conscious organisations and are always happy to have a chat about how we can help.